Thursday, February 8, 2024

SETTING AN EXAMPLE

SETTING AN EXAMPLE 

Father’s Day 2017, Ishita Sengupta 

Word Meaning

1.         essence - core, main element

2.         portrayed - projected, shown

3.         immensely - greatly, extremely

4.         fondly - affectionately

5.         lament - regret, expressing sorrow

6.         narrative - events, story

7.         exaggeration - making more than what it is

8.         affirm - confirm

9.         rigid - stiff, not flexible

10.       twirled - rotated, spun

11.       proverbial - widely referred or known

12.       resident - dweller

13.       socialise - interact with other in a society

14.       accustomed - habitual, familiar

15.       lurking - hidden, escaping

16.       offspring - children

17.       journals - periodical, magazines

18.       fortunate - lucky

19.       machismo - male behaviour

20.       grudges - grumbles, bitterness

21.       grave - great

22.       predictably - foresee, about future

23.       albeit - even though

24.       ridiculed - mocked, made fun of

25.       comprehend - understand

26.       resolve - decide, decision

27.       designated - appointed, allocated

28.       bargain - argue

29.       retort - remark, answer

30.       hurling - throwing, casting

31.       jest - funny remarks, joke

32.      doting - caring, serving


B.3 From the text

a. What are some of the stereotypes associated with fathers? Can you think of one that is not mentioned here?

Some of the stereotypes associated with fathers are that they come late from office. They are busy with working long hours away from home and because of that they cannot give enough time to their children. Fathers look at their children fondly and lament that they did not see them growing up. Fathers are the guardians who protect and defend the house. The most important one that is not mentioned in the text is fathers are the only earning members in the family.

 

b. Why does the author refer to all the three stay-at-home dads as round pegs in the square holes?

The phrase ‘round pegs in the square holes’ refers to a person in a situation not suitable for a position or activity. The author brings out the three stay at home dads, who have chosen to do the task that is not done by men or fathers in the patriarchal society. Instead of going to long hours of work, they are taking care of their children. This is considered to be the work of women. Hence, these fathers do not fit into the stereotypes regarding men in our society and the author refers to all the three stay-at-home dads as round pegs in the square holes.

c. What does Balachagran refer to as ‘work in progress’? Why do you thing he says this?

Balachandran refers to the ‘stay-at-home dads’ as work in progress. He says that because they are still learning how to be better dads.

 

B.6 Answer the following questions

a. Do you support the statement that all the three fathers mentioned in the article are not trying to be super-dads but fathers? Find evidence from the text to support your answer.

Yes, I agree that all the three fathers mentioned in the article are not trying to be super-dads but fathers. Madhur Prabhakare chose to be a stay-at-home dad to be able to see his daughter Mysha grow up. Sambit Mukherjee is also doing the same to look after his two years old daughter Shivangi. Sid Balachandran is a hands-on-father who takes pride in changing his son Rishi’s nappies. These three men had successful professional careers, but they chose to stay at home to see their children grow up.  There is no hard and fast rule that only mothers have to stay home to take care of their children.

 

b. They are doing a grave disservice to the idea of ‘fatherhood’ that the patriarchal society, so tirelessly and assiduously, has perpetuated in the minds of people. What does the author mean by this statement? Find examples from the text to show that the fathers mentioned in the article are not conforming to the stereotypical idea of ‘fatherhood’.

The author is being sarcastic about the notion of fatherhood that the patriarchal society has sustained over time. They are going against the stereotypes of fatherhood set by the patriarchal society. Mukherjee learns lullabies from YouTube to sing them out for his daughter, and Mysha has taken up the habit of reading from her father, Prabhakar who is a voracious reader himself, something the doting father is only too proud of.

c. Complete the following table with details about the three families mentioned in the article.


B.7 Answer in detail

And contrary to what is believed, they have not taken ‘the easy way out’. Do you agree with the author’s claim that the fathers mentioned in the article have not taken ‘the easy way out’? Support your answer with evidence from the text.

Yes, I agree with the author’s claim that the fathers have not taken the easy way out. The three fathers mentioned here consciously took this decision. They preferred staying at home with their children, not because they were unsuccessful professionally but wanted to take up this role. A child is the responsibility of both the parents. In these cases, the fathers invested themselves in looking after their children against the norm. They have all gone through the difficulties of parenting, and learnt it the hard way. They have faced criticism. They were questioned and ridiculed as well, but they did not stop from doing what they wanted to.

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